By David West
*This article originally appeared in the SCOPE Newsletter Volume 27 – Issue 2. It has been slightly edited for re-publication.
As my daughter and I walked into a familiar fast-food restaurant, I sensed something was different. The parking lot was full and it was well after the normal lunch hour. Then upon entering the establishment, we found it packed with people. An overdressed patron occupied almost every table.
Turning to my daughter I said, “Something is happening here. I wonder what it is?” After ordering ice cream for two, I asked the cashier, “What’s going on today?” She informed me that the restaurant was having open interviews for jobs.
Not thinking much more of it, I found an open table and started to enjoy a tasty treat with my daughter. As it turned out, I couldn’t have picked a better seat in order to have a great opportunity to pass on some wisdom.
Our table was situated in just the right place for me to overhear the store manager interview potential employees. I couldn’t resist listening in and commenting to my daughter. We were close enough for me to hear the conversations but far enough away that I could whisper insights to her without being overheard.
“You always do that,” she said after I started talking.
“What’s that?” I asked.
“Talk about stuff that’s going on around us,” she reported.
“Yes, I suppose you’re right,” I said.
“Do you think the manager will hire that person?” I asked.
“I don’t know,” she replied.
“I wouldn’t if I were the boss. Do you know why?”
One of the potential employees hadn’t worked in over three years. The manager asked why and the person answered, “Because no one is hiring.” The manager then asked, “How many places have you applied?” The response came back, “Ten.”
I told my daughter, “She lacks initiative. As a store manager, I would hope she had been applying for ten jobs per week, not ten in the last three years while complaining that no one is hiring.” Another potential employee had a hard time keeping his pants up. I mentioned to my daughter that managers don’t like dealing with uniform issues. “If this young man can’t keep his pants up during an interview when he is trying to impress the boss, what will it be like after he is hired.”
And so the conversation continued like this through several interviews. I was enjoying the ice cream, but even more, I was enjoying a chance to share insights with my girl.
I told my daughter, “This would be bold and not many people would do it. But do you know what I would do if I were here waiting to be interviewed? Instead of sitting at a table and waiting for my number to be called, I would be picking up trash under the table and cleaning up after patrons. The manager would be sure to notice and then ask me about this when it was my turn. I would answer, “Since serving the customers and the establishment is what I will be hired to do, why waste time getting started?”
Parents have a great responsibility to train their children. This burden falls especially on the dads. Not only are we to teach them all that God has commanded (see Deuteronomy 6), but many practical things that will help them throughout life. Proverbs is full of this kind of instruction from a father to a son and it is a great example for us.
My young lady may not remember much of this conversation, but as many more just like this pile up over the years, they certainly will shape her thinking. My goal as a dad is not to see my daughter get a job at a fast-food restaurant. The goal is to see her grow up to be a woman who works diligently for the glory of God. The work ethic I was promoting that day is as relevant at school, home, or church. God tells us that whatever our hand finds to do, we should do it with all our might. These are the type of lessons I want my children to learn concerning the workplace. As a dad, it is my responsibility to help my children become productive, work-loving, self-starters. Modeling this is, of course, the best way. Another way is by always talking about “stuff” that’s going on around us.
Introduction to Home Education Meeting Coming Soon!
Thank you for visiting our home school website. If you are not homeschooling at this time, but are considering the possibility and if you have any questions about how to do so, I would like to personally invite you to join me at the next Introduction to Home Education meeting to be held on Monday, January 13th at 7:00 p.m.
My name is Patty Glaviano. I am the Chat Director for the Sacramento Christian Organization of Parent Educators (SCOPE). I will be presenting information about the legalities of homeschooling in California and other pertinent information in order to help you decide whether homeschooling is the right path for you and your family.
If you are interested, please RSVP me at email@example.com I will then send you the location of the meeting and send you a reminder when the meeting time gets close.
*This article originally appeared in the SCOPE newsletter, September 2012. It has been lightly edited.
By Karla Worell-Memmott
I recently attended a webinar in which the speaker was addressing statistical evidence of college graduates’ lack of preparation for the labor force. In one of the surveys cited, employers emphasized the lack of work ethic in many college graduates. As I listened to the information presented, I reflected back to a book I read in my early years of parenting entitled, Raising Self-Reliant Children in a Self-Indulgent World. The authors, Glenn and Nelson (1989), voiced their concern with respect to the parenting trend of that time which included entertaining children rather than training children. The author’s apprehension included only the amount of television entertainment to which children were exposed in the late 1980s. I don’t know if there has been a revision to the book, but ponder whether the author’s anxiety has increased in our “entertainment saturated society.” These cares were expressed in the webinar, wherein the speaker cited facts identifying the number of hours spent in entertainment-based activities, which in the webinar’s speaker’s opinion included television, video games, internet, social media, as well as the inclination towards sports and other entertainment-based activities.
The solution presented in the book and the webinar were somewhat similar. The suggestion addressed the need to target young children with a healthy understanding of work, responsibility, and team membership. The three concepts are interrelated. Now obviously, this is not a suggestion to set up a child-labor based society, nor a suggestion that we have no entertainment whatsoever. The intent is to instill in children a healthy concept of work by giving the child age-appropriate responsibilities that contribute towards the functioning of the family. The idea is to teach a child that he or she is a valuable member of a team, the family. If the child neglects his responsibility, the family will share in that neglect. In my own life, I recall that as a young child of seven or eight, my responsibility on our family vacations was to crank up our tent trailer and set the jacks. I also vividly remember the time when I forgot to set the jacks and my mother went inside the tent-trailer to set up the beds. I learned that when I didn’t uphold my responsibility, others could suffer.
The responsibilities given to young children will obviously vary based on age, ability, and family circumstances; however, young children should not be denied the reward (Eccl. 5:18-19) that comes from a healthy work ethic. For example, if a family is constructing a fence, younger children can be assigned the responsibility of bringing glasses of water to the family members or perhaps handing nails to the workers. The idea is to practically instruct the child that he is capable of work and can contribute to the success of a team. Through the process of repetitions in varied circumstances with increasing responsibility over the years, this focus will be internalized and will later translate into an adult who is ready to enter the labor force with a solid work ethic.
We live in a society in which the youth are encouraged not to work, to enjoy their youth and put off work as long as possible. Alex Chediak (2011) notes that the lack of a work ethic is one reason behind the influx of many college graduates returning home to live with their parents. Can you imagine the testimony we send into the business community when a young adult graduates from college prepared to enter into the workplace with a solid, Biblical-based work ethic? This training does not begin during the college years; it begins when a five-year-old proudly boasts to a neighbor, “My family built a fence. My job was to give everyone the nails.” It continues when this event is repeated in many small increments through the developing years.
Chediak, Alex, (2011). Thriving at College: Make Great Friends, Keep Your Faith, and Get Ready for the Real World. Carol Stream, Illinois: Tyndale House Publishers, Inc.
College Plus Webinar (2012). “The Importance of Knowing Your Worldview When You Enter the Market Place” [Webinar]. Spring Branch, Texas
Glenn, H.S. & Nelson, J. (1989). Raising Self-Reliant Children In A Self-Indulgent World: Seven Building Blocks for Developing Capable Young People. Rocklin, California: Prima Publishing.
The International Inductive Study Bible, (1993). Eugene, Oregon: Harvest House Publishers.
I won’t name the organization. They probably do good work, but their motto is misguided. I cringe every time I read it. They claim to help Christian families leave government schools for the Promised Land of Christian education or homeschooling.
Really? The Promised Land?
I’m a stalwart advocate for private Christian education. I have many reasons. The government school system is failing our children by every measure. From poor academics, to financial waste, to immorality, the school system gets a failing grade.
So, what are we to do? Leave the system?
Certainly, I’m all for it. But to call the exodus into Christian schooling and homeschooling an entrance into the Promised Land is too much.
Biblical imagery can be taken out of context to such an extent that it becomes unhelpful. For one thing, the Israelites found Canaan filled with idolatry and immorality, arguable worse than existed in Egypt. They were told to rid all idols and foreign gods from the land. They failed. Why? Because they brought wicked hearts with them into the Promised Land. They brought their problem with them. Their problem was sin.
The same thing is true of us. We remove our children from public schools, but our children bring their biggest struggle with them – they bring their sinful hearts. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not arguing for leaving children in the public-school system. Neither am I advocating the “salt and light” argument. I’m simply saying this: Christian schools and homeschools aren’t the Savior. Only Christ can save us from our sins. He is the One we need. He is the One our children need.
So, stay out of the public-school system, but, don’t assume you have entered a land of promise. Assume you have work to do, difficult work, gospel work. Raising your children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord takes effort and diligence. Getting them out from under humanistic teaching is only one step in the process. Pray that God uses your efforts to save, to turn hearts of stone into hearts of flesh. Our hope must be in Christ alone, not in a Promised Land of our own imagination.
*This article originally appeared in the SCOPE Newsletter in July, 2017.
Home Education was more of an experiment or an idea rather than a philosophy for many families in the late 1960’s and early 1970’s. Seen by many as social misfits, these parents were trying to educate their children without the age segregated environment found in public schools and the strict structure of a classroom. These families were primarily secular and used the “Un-schooling” approach of having their homes full of books and learning resources to stimulate learning naturally with little or no set classroom time.
In 1972 Dr. Raymond and Dorothy Moore brought home education into the Christian arena. They wrote the book, Better Late than Early which was born from an article first published in Harper’s magazine. The California state legislature was considering a law to lower the compulsory age for children to attend school to 2 years, 9 months and in response to that legislative idea Dr. Moore wrote the article based on his research that children actually did better if they waited to begin formal education. The article was republished in Reader’s Digest and was so well received the publishers requested the book be written. Thus modern Christian Home Education was born.
It would take nearly a decade for the seeds that were planted in 1972 to sprout. There were a few cutting edge Christian families who embraced the Moore’s ideas and began to homeschool during that decade but the fullness of time had not occurred for most. Dr. Brian Ray and his wife, Betsy began both to home educate and to research home education in the late 70’s. Dr. Ray meant for his research to be part of his doctorial thesis but was turned down. Instead it became his life’s work and was used in his thesis which then became about the public school system.
In the early 1980’s Dr. James Dobson invited Dr. Raymond Moore to be a guest speaker on his Focus on the Family radio program. In those days Dr. Dobson was who the young Christian family looked to daily for encouragement in parenting their children.
In Los Angeles County a husband and wife heard the now famous radio program and knew it was an answer to their prayers for their young son, they were Michael & Elizabeth Smith. In Orange County two families heard it also and felt the same answer to their prayers for their children, the mothers of these families were Karen (Woodfin) Middleton and Susan Beatty. These women were soon overwhelmed with the numbers of phone calls and letters asking for help to begin home education because hundreds, perhaps thousands, of families heard that broadcast and felt lead of the Lord to try homeschooling. Susan and Karen began writing a newsletter but it was soon apparent that their work needed to be offered to a wider audience and on a statewide basis rather than just a local county one and the new organization, Christian Home Educators Association of California (CHEA) was born. The first organizational meeting for this association was held in the home of Mike & Elizabeth Smith culminating in forming a small advisory Board consisting of Mike Smith, Dr. Raymond Moore, and Jonathan Lindvall. The year was 1982.
Although groups were cropping up all over California, they were still small in numbers. An average support group might consist of a half dozen families. Many families did not even have school aged children yet. They had heard that wonderful radio program and wanted to gather with others who planned to homeschool their children when the time came.
The legalities of homeschooling became a major issue in the beginning days and Mike Smith was asked to step in and help families who had issues. At a conference in Sacramento Mike met another homeschooling father, Michael Farris who was essentially doing the same kind of help for homeschooling families in Washington state. In March of 1982 these two men founded the Home School Legal Defense Association (HSLDA) with 250 members. CHEA and HSLDA would continue to work hand in hand on issues here in California indefinitely.
The first state wide homeschool convention was chaired by Michael Smith and held in downtown Los Angeles at the Church of the Open Door in 1984. The Keynote speakers were Dr. Tim & Beverly La Haye and other speakers included: James Rose, Gregg Harris, Karen (Woodfin) Middleton, Susan Beatty, and Cathy Duffy. A whopping 900 people attended.
In February of 1985 Dr. Raymond & Dorothy Moore sponsored a How to Homeschool Conference in Pasadena. All attendees sat in their seats and speakers came and went. There were about 1000 attendees with both Dr. and Mrs. Moore speaking, Phyllis Schlafly of Eagle Forum, the creator of Math It, Elmer Brooks, and the creator of Winston Grammar, Paul H. Irwin. Not to disappoint the masses, Dr. Dobson also made a guest appearance.
In March of 1987 HSLDA moved to the Washington D.C. area and set up offices there taking Mike Smith away from the state and the position of legislative liaison. Roy Hanson who already homeschooled his own children and worked closely with CHEA and HSLDA officially became the new legislative liaison and the 3 groups of Family Protection Ministries (FPM), HSLDA, & CHEA began its long run of watching out for home education and homeschooling families in California.
By 1985 the small little support groups multiplied immensely. Groups went from 5 or 6 families to 25 to 30 families and continued to grow steadily with each consecutive year. Dr. & Mrs. Moore visited different cities throughout the state giving seminars on home education. Gregg Harris also made the rounds throughout California giving 2 day seminars and being a featured speaker at homeschool conventions. Jonathan Lindvall first gave one day Priorities workshops and then his two day Bold Christian Youth and Bold Christian Living workshops.
The 1980’s brought lots of books to the forefront. Susan Beatty and Karen Woodfin Middleton co-authored An Introduction to Home Education which regularly sold out at conventions almost immediately. Dr. Moore added Home Grown Kids and Home Style Teaching to his growing list of books. For the Children’s Sake by Susan Schaeffer Macaulay was the first glimpse for many into the Charlotte Mason philosophy of education. Mary Pride gave us The Way Home which advocated our children being our mission field and the idea of passing on a godly heritage. She also gave us The Big Book of Home Learning which quickly expanded to several books to hold all of her curriculum reviews. Cathy Duffy also wrote her Christian Curriculum Manuals (both elementary & Jr. & Sr. High School) and stayed on top of what was out there and which curriculum worked best for Christian homeschoolers. A Survivor’s Guide to Home Schooling by Luanne Shackleford and Susan White gave us our first book by a couple of homeschooling moms about how to make it work day in and day out. Ruth Beechik’s You Can Teach your Child Successfully and her The Three R’s are still foundational “how to” books that every homeschool teacher should read. Encyclopedia of Bible Truths for School Subjects by Ruth C. Haycock was a must have for every homeschoolers book shelf. Mary Schofield introduced her first edition of The High School Handbook and a little known book by Debbie Castaneda and Pam Geib titled Help! I’m Homeschooling had its modest debut.
The major periodical of the day was The Teaching Home. It went from a simple black and white format to a beautiful full color edition during that first decade of homeschooling (it is still available for free on-line and in an email format). The Court Report by HSLDA was also a foundational magazine that home educating parents waited for every other month. Home School Digest also made its debut with its above quality articles and fewer advertisements.
In the early days of the 1980’s A Beka was not sure how they felt about homeschooling so they announced that it was not profitable to offer their books to homeschoolers and gave them a deadline as to when they would quit selling to families individually. The outpour of orders from families buying complete K-12 curriculum was so overwhelming the company re-thought their decision and never did stop selling to homeschoolers. Bob Jones University Press (now known as BJU Press), Rod & Staff, Christian Light, Alpha Omega, Christian Liberty Press, all made their presence known and became familiar sites at local homeschool conferences and fairs. Exhibit Halls were generally smaller in those days and those few periodicals were thinner.
Park Days were foundational to the early homeschool family. Not only were they a time of socializing but they were also a time of learning from each other about curriculum and teaching styles and philosophies. Group field trips, parties, service opportunities were all shared and enjoyed. There were almost no computers (oh a few here and there but used mostly for games), no cell phones, very few answering machines, and families sharing their resources, babysitting swapping, rides to and from, and gleaning from each other what worked and what did not. Community was essential.
Thus was the first real decade of Private Christian Home Education. Next time we will share some of the history making moments of the past 30 years and how God providentially met each need and concern as it came up.